Is it worth starting a relationship with a Colleague?
Thursday, 03 September 2020

 If you are reading this, you are constantly turning the question in your mind, and concerned if shooting your shot at a coworker is such a good idea. Because relationships at work are not easy. 

 There is much rapport around this particular topic. Some statistics even show that two-thirds of people meet their partner either through friends or at work. This is being used as a backward statistic. 


In other words, what it is saying is that because two-thirds of people meet their partners through these circumstances and conditions, that must mean that friendship or workplace are the best places to meet people. In our opinion, this is an entirely inaccurate logic.

It doesn’t mean that these are the best places to meet people. It merely shows that this is where most people are meeting their partners.

In this article we will list and discuss in detail the pros and cons of dating with a colleague, and if you want to know if it is worth having sex with a friend, click here. In the end, it's up to you how to proceed.

Read through as we walk you through everything you need to know about the topic.

Pros of Dating a Colleague

As stated earlier, there are the good and bad sides of the office or general workplace romance. Below are the benefits of dating a coworker.

Social proof

The first benefit of meeting someone at work is what is known as social proof.  That is because you both work in the same environment, you have this idea that you are both all right, and know what you are both up to – good or bad. 

Since you work together and see each other every day, you both know each other. Therefore, you have a level of comfort and rapport that comes from knowing that you are both stand-up people that have jobs.

You Understand each other

The second pro is that you know how they react to certain situations. Since you have been working together for some time, you know how they deal with pressure, how they deal with some regions of discipline like having to show up every day and do their job. 

You also know some other things like how they deal with tension and conflict, all of which are good things to know about a potential partner. Thus, work is a crash course in getting to know your partner in at least one particular environment.

Sustained communication

The third positive about dating a colleague is that you can build that rapport over time with this person. 

The terms will be different where you meet someone in a coffee shop. Herein, you need to approach them, start talking to them, and hope you are going to go from start to finish and then get their contact details. At work, however, you get to know someone for at least 3 - 6 months before you guys ever go on a date, and when you eventually do, there is a lot to talk about.

Cons of Dating a Colleague 

Although office romance does have its perks, it also has its downsides, and we are going to discuss some of the reasons why you should proceed with caution before dating that coworker.

Before we hop right into it, here’s the thing. Dating a coworker can affect two aspects of your life - not only your love life but your career as well. Relationships and careers are hard enough on their own, and blending the two can be very difficult. 

Here are some reasons you should seriously consider before starting a relationship with a coworker

Company rules

Let’s start from the straightforward and obvious one - some companies have rules against it, and others frown at the idea of colleagues dating each other.

Companies over the years have found out that workplace romance is just bad for business because  they are fault with a lot of pitfalls and danger. That is why some mandate you must not do it in the first place. So, before you proceed with shooting your shot, make sure you are not breaking company rules.

It could affect your career

Let’s say your company doesn’t strictly prohibit you from dating your coworker. In this situation, once you start dating a coworker, you come off as unprofessional. Your other colleagues will start looking at you differently once they notice you are in a relationship with a coworker.

It’s just hard to look professional when you are lovey-dovey, and it is highly recommended you do nothing at your job that runs the risk of making you look less professional. You are at your job to provide, to move up the ladder, to hopefully get promotions and looking unprofessional doesn’t help you in any of those goals. 

Also, as much as folks hate to admit it, dating a colleague will lead to a decrease in productivity. If you are at work flirting with your partner, joking around, and always walking back and forth to their desk, you are not going to get much work done.

What if it doesn’t work out?

Every relationship is going to have bad days. One of the best ways to move past it is for both partners to go to their corners to try to process it, but if you are working together, you will have to see each other every single day, This does not help to remedy the problems you guys had the night before.

Let’s say the argument then leads to a breakup, and it will be harder to go through the healing process. Usually, when you end things with someone, you don’t have to see them anymore, but if you guys work in the same place, you are going to have to see this person you’re no longer with, 5 days a week for a very long time.

Conclusion

There are several pros and cons of meeting and dating someone at work, and most people will even tell you not to do it outright. And to be honest, it is probably the best you look elsewhere for a hookup because the disadvantages far outweigh the advantages.
 
 
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